I know that many of you have heard the story of the farm wife who thought that something was odd when she looked out the kitchen window. She was not sure what was wrong, but something about the yard was different.
The difference was that the tractor was not parked by the barn. It had been repossessed by the dealership. She and her husband were about to lose their farm.
This was all new to her. She did not know that they were in deep financial distress. Her husband, for whatever reason, did not tell her about their problems. The farm wife and her husband obviously had an issue of trust in their relationship.
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Trusting in an intimate relationship is much more than practising fidelity in sexual affairs.
To trust another person is to believe that you can share those parts of yourself with him or her that you would not like to admit. Trust in one another means you can say the following:
Trusting one another
I trust you when I talk wildly about my successes and freely admit to my failures.
I trust you when I tell you about the fear I feel when I walk in the dark.
I trust you when I listen to you and share your ups and downs.
I trust you when I am confused and puzzled about what I should do.
I trust you when I need to be alone to think about things. I trust that you will give me a moment of freedom.
I trust you when you need solitude, and I respect your privacy.
I trust you when I hold your hand in mine as we walk through a summer’s field.
I trust you when I follow you to an adventure you want to share with me.
I trust you when I take an interest in a new project and feel free to tell you about it. I trust you even though I know that you are not likely to share my enthusiasm.
I trust you when the cycle of fate challenges just about everything that I do, when life is difficult and I am
failing. I trust you and I know that you will be there to love and support me.
And most of all, I trust you through-out the many years we have yet to travel, and I ask if you will join with me, as I will with you, through all of the surprises, be they good or bad, that are waiting for us along the way.
Jacklin Andrews is a family counsellor from Saskatchewan who has taught social work. Mail correspondence in care of Western
Producer, Box 2500, Saskatoon, Sask., S7K 2C4 or e-mail jandrews@producer.com.
