A: Most of your questions about money are answered in the law column this week. You can get more written information from the Public Legal Aid Association of Saskatchewan at 115-701 Cynthia St., Saskatoon, Sask. Phone 306-653-1868, or from the legal aid clinic in your area.
You didn’t indicate why you thought your marriage might end. If you are being verbally, emotionally or physically abused, I urge you to contact the nearest mental health clinic or support service for abused women.
If you were to feel you had to leave your home, you could stay at a woman’s emergency shelter, or get help to stay at a safe place like a YWCA. Mobile Crisis Services in Saskatoon, Regina or Prince Albert, or the Provincial Association of Transition Houses in Saskatchewan (978-6654) can tell you where these are. Also, you may have adult children or sisters or brothers you could stay with.
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You can get emergency financial assistance, if necessary, until you are provided with adequate money by your husband.
Your husband may or may not know that you are wondering about the future of the marriage. Are you thinking you might have to leave him? Or, are you afraid he might abandon you after he sells the farmland? See if there is a counsellor who works for your health district, or one from the mental health clinic that serves the area who might help you. Perhaps they could make a home visit, or meet you privately in town.
If you could come to Prince Albert, I could meet with you personally. You can contact me at 953-3875 or 764-1214. If your husband is willing to make some changes, perhaps the marriage can continue.
Support if vital
Leaving a marriage after 40 years is something like losing your life, or at least a large part of it. Everything seems, at first, to have gone down the drain. And nobody wants to spend the rest of their life alone. But some men have pulled away so far emotionally from their wives that in effect, the wife doesn’t feel that much difference when they separate.
The key is in having support from others and making a plan for your living accommodation and your financial future. You probably have at least a quarter more of your life still to live, and it is important to plan for that new life, if that proves necessary.
