Giving in can cause conflict
A common but harmful pattern of behavior can occur in a relationship when one person gives in on an issue, even when they don’t feel comfortable doing so.
Partner A says she would like to do something. Partner B isn’t keen on doing it or doesn’t want to do it yet he says “OK.”
The event occurs and there doesn’t seem to be a problem.
Later on, however, B gets irritated and snappy, or may even start a
fight about some unrelated incident.
Why didn’t B disagree with A when the idea or activity was initially
suggested?
At the time, B may have thought the issue wasn’t that important and may have agreed, tacitly, to go along with it.
However, if B had taken a few moments, and thought things through, he would have realized that he didn’t feel comfortable about giving in.
At the time, B didn’t want to have a fight over the issue.
