Self-efficacy may be a better goal than self-esteem

Q: I don’t know how many times I have been told that life would be more enjoyable for me if I took some time to raise my self-esteem. I got that advice all the way through high school, from various professors at university and from my colleagues at work. It is not that I don’t […] Read more

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Children of alcoholics can face serious problems as adults

Q: I have learned over this last little while to admire my 13-year-old nephew. His mother, my sister, is a committed alcoholic. Her relationship to the bottle is more important to her than are her responsibilities to her family. Fortunately for her, her son, my nephew, picks up on a number of chores around the […] Read more

Smiling can help shy daughter avoid isolation in big city

Q: I am really worried about our daughter. She graduated from high school earlier this spring and has since found a job in the city. It is a great job. She would be foolish not to take it. But our daughter does not easily make friends. Most everyone here in our little town knows her, […] Read more


Aging well requires acceptance, preparation

Q: I am afraid that I am not doing well with this whole getting old thing. I see other people my age who appear to be happy and smiling and doing great but I am not. My days start and end with handfuls of pills, waiting for various doctor appointments and scheduling yet again more […] Read more

Life changes can cause difficulties in preadolescence

Q: We are no longer sure what to do with our daughter. Until recently, she has always been a great kid. But that is not always so now. This past couple of years, both in Grades 7 and 8, she has been moody, temperamental, not as co-operative as she once was and not nearly as […] Read more



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Listening best way to ease Mom into care home

Q: What an ordeal this has been. For the past 13 years, ever since my dad died, my mom has been living alone in the little house she and Dad bought when they sold the farm and moved into town. Mom has always been fiercely independent. Unfortunately, that is not working for her any more. […] Read more



New goals may solve entitlement issues

Q: My husband and I were really poor years ago when we got married. I am not sure that we had even finished all the payments on his old Ford truck. We worked hard over the years, scrimped and saved, made some good decisions, got a little lucky and built what today is a reasonably […] Read more