Pursuing perfection is to pursue an impossible dream

Q:My husband thinks that I have an obsessive-compulsive disorder. I think that I am a perfectionist. My teenage kids call me a nag. No matter how you spell it, it adds up to a lot of unnecessary tension in our household, and I seem to be the focal point through which that tension is being […] Read more


Efforts to quiet a noisy family starts with quieter parents

Q: I never would have guessed that our family could make up the nosiest house in the neighbourhood. We never thought about it when we were living on the farm. No one was there to complain. However, in town it is different. Everyone hears us, and many of those who hear us are starting to […] Read more





ADD diagnosis in children not dire life sentence

Q: Dear Mr. Andrews: The bottom line from the notes we got from the school last year focusing on our 13-year-old son is that his teachers and school administrators believe that he is struggling with attention deficit disorder. To me this is devastating. It is like we are closing the doors to any kind of […] Read more


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Need for relevance can affect experience in care home

Q: About a year ago we talked my mother into accepting her need for support and she got accepted by a long-term care facility. My husband and I spent more time looking after my mom in her house than we did caring for both our children and grandchildren in our house. Getting Mom into long-term […] Read more



Happiness is a byproduct of challenges on life’s journey

Q: With that awful virus that is going around our Grade 12 graduates have chosen to leave their ceremonial celebration until the early fall. They are hoping that the pandemic will by then have subsided and that somehow they can have a normal graduation without running too much interference with the fall harvest. For me, […] Read more